Monday, July 23, 2012
Wellness Tip for Peace: "When we fall in-love with someone, we must also fall in-love with the responsibility that goes along with loving". This way it will be easier for us to love unconditionally making the whole concept of loving "real" and not just an "idea"
People can fall in-love with the idea. Any idea that gives the human being the feel-good sensation. An idea that can make a human being worthy of existence, a reason for living, a quest for something excellent, a liberation of the mind, body and spirit.
One very good idea of idealism is "loving". How do humans really love thee? Do we count the ways? Or I love you because... and if not I won't love you anymore. Do we really give in to loving? Or are we consumed by the idea, or our concept on how love should and should not be? How do we know that love is real? And how do we know that we are truly "loving"?
We can check on how we handle the responsibility of loving the people we choose to love. Do we give in to their needs? Are we capable of giving it? If we are not ready to give it, are we preparing ourselves so that eventually we can provide the needs of the person we choose to love? Do we let them know that we are here for them? Do we pursue the one we love or do we back-out of the responsibility knowing that the person we love needs us badly? Do we left them alone? Or do we stay and take the responsibility of loving bravely as a knight that fight anything that will take away the one we love?
Don't be afraid, take the responsibilities it bear, for life is fair for those who care. Trust the light of love that binds your heart together to the one who loves you and to the one you love.
Thursday, July 12, 2012
Wellness Tip for Peace: In the law of faith, love resides in our heart. It is perfected with hope so that good will be done by the soul and be healed without fear
Keep the faith, drop the fear. Easier said than done, and that's why, love needs to come in. We cannot start to have faith if we don't want to love, and we cannot continue having faith if we do not want to pursue loving. To love is not to care on who the person is, not anymore. To decide to love the person is to accept whoever he/she is, doesn't care anymore on what people say or what the society dictates. It is just love, no judgements, no demands, no expectations, no standards, no qualification, no analysis, no experimentation, nothing but just love. If a person reached this conviction, then faith has a place in the person's heart. Once loving is taking place, faith is being harness, not with any material or physical thing, but something that only the person who love has it -- and that is hope.
While loving unconditionally, hope is alive in the person's will to do good. Eventually the person who love will reach the level that his/her fear has melted and what remains are multiple lights of hope flashing and shining in the person/s faith to get what he/she wants at the soonest possible time!
Everything is possible because there is faith!
So, do you want to get what you want? Have faith. To start with, learn how to love and everything will follow naturally...
While loving unconditionally, hope is alive in the person's will to do good. Eventually the person who love will reach the level that his/her fear has melted and what remains are multiple lights of hope flashing and shining in the person/s faith to get what he/she wants at the soonest possible time!
Everything is possible because there is faith!
So, do you want to get what you want? Have faith. To start with, learn how to love and everything will follow naturally...
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Wellness Tip for Peace: Don't stereotype them as Antagonistic, consider reasons for their negative response. Be diligent. Take time to communicate with them your pure intention. Do not expect them to conform w/u right away. Be consistent because your actions will inspire them to believe you
There are people whose DNA factor and chemical composition produces a doubtful personality. While others were raised by their family or community to be "always" analytical of other people's intention. When you encounter this kind of situation, be ready not to dwell into self-pity of seeing the whole scenario as unfavorable or calling everyone as antagonistic. It is not healthy, I know, and it takes a thick skinned to swallow all the insults of those who do not believe in you. What I intend to say is to see the whole situation as given, it is not personal, it is not because of you that they are like that, but it is who they are, before they met you. Now, we cannot change these people, but we can always change the way we look at them. If we avoid the negative thoughts and we keep our heart pure, we can still deal with them as professional human being.
How? Stop analyzing the person's behavior. Stop analyzing the person's background. Stop analyzing the kind of relationship your having with them. Treat these people as innocent humans. Stop being a judge and start being a communicator. Tell your intentions in the language that these people can understand. Educate.
Miscommunication happens when the other lost the interest to communicate the thoughts in a manner that the other person can understand. Remember, different people, different strokes. We cannot compare one from the other, or worst, we cannot compare ourselves to others, because doing so is vanity.
Communication is an art form. We craft the art in such a way that it can cater to a particular person as our audience. As an art form, communication will require skills to do so. Skills can be harnessed in time. So, don't get frustrated. If at one point, you were misunderstood, try again. If it is not yet working, try again. Until you still have the pure energy to do so, try again. Because you do not know when is the right time that these people can really understand what you "really" mean.
Do not expect because you do not control their mind. Just be fair and treat them well by not judging them.
How? Stop analyzing the person's behavior. Stop analyzing the person's background. Stop analyzing the kind of relationship your having with them. Treat these people as innocent humans. Stop being a judge and start being a communicator. Tell your intentions in the language that these people can understand. Educate.
Miscommunication happens when the other lost the interest to communicate the thoughts in a manner that the other person can understand. Remember, different people, different strokes. We cannot compare one from the other, or worst, we cannot compare ourselves to others, because doing so is vanity.
Communication is an art form. We craft the art in such a way that it can cater to a particular person as our audience. As an art form, communication will require skills to do so. Skills can be harnessed in time. So, don't get frustrated. If at one point, you were misunderstood, try again. If it is not yet working, try again. Until you still have the pure energy to do so, try again. Because you do not know when is the right time that these people can really understand what you "really" mean.
Do not expect because you do not control their mind. Just be fair and treat them well by not judging them.
Thursday, July 5, 2012
Wellness Tip for Peace: Be Yourself. Let your personality surface. Be Prepared, know their issues and anticipate challenges
In peace leadership, you must have first and foremost the full understanding and control of yourself. If you lose yourself, you lose your peace. If you do not own yourself, how can you share yourself to others? How can you be selfless if you do not have your own self? Reflect, who are you? What do you need? What do you want? What do you think are your strengths? What do you think are your weaknesses? What is your obssession? What makes you tick? What will push you to the edge? What is your passion? What makes you complete? What will make you lose your sanity? These are some questions and you can further elaborate by asking yourself of the worst things that you can think of that will check your mind on how you cope up and can cope up with the pressures of peace-making.
Knowing yourself is a never ending process. It goes on and on until your alive. In the process of knowing ourselves, we got into the web of multi-cultural, multi-faith, multi-social, and multi-behavioral patterns. It can get crazy, but don't get frustrated because the whole experience is in simple terms, education. Remember, our negative reaction to something new is not personal but cultural. We don't know that point and we just learn it practically from another fellow where we just had and is currently having conflicting relationships. So, instead of getting too emotional on issues being raised, be professional, study, research and analyze every detail until you get the answer to your questions. Enjoy the learning process as you develop your self and find ways to make "any" relationship work! Nothing to lose but everything works to your advantage because you are given free education of life and you have all the options to choose what kind of life you can make. No one can dictate you, only you knows how you can solve your conflict, because nobody knows yourself better but you.
Why will you walk away? Why will you always run away from people or for that someone that you have passionate connections? Be brave. Know their issues. Study, learn and analyze. It is a privelege that destiny gave you another chance together in this lifetime to settle whatever it is that you need to settle. So take the lead, initiate the talk. Listen, and you will not just win a friend for life but you will develop your self in the whole process of facing your weakness. Take note, everybody is a friend, it just so happen that they were assigned in this lifetime either to be our parent, brother, sister, spouse, children, relatives, etc. But those are just name tags with corresponding society's assignments. In the end, what truly made you stay together is because you are FRIENDS..... the love you shared, the respect you have for each other, the moments you treasure are not society's requirements but the passion you both have in your heart.
And if this is the case, who says nothing last forever...
Knowing yourself is a never ending process. It goes on and on until your alive. In the process of knowing ourselves, we got into the web of multi-cultural, multi-faith, multi-social, and multi-behavioral patterns. It can get crazy, but don't get frustrated because the whole experience is in simple terms, education. Remember, our negative reaction to something new is not personal but cultural. We don't know that point and we just learn it practically from another fellow where we just had and is currently having conflicting relationships. So, instead of getting too emotional on issues being raised, be professional, study, research and analyze every detail until you get the answer to your questions. Enjoy the learning process as you develop your self and find ways to make "any" relationship work! Nothing to lose but everything works to your advantage because you are given free education of life and you have all the options to choose what kind of life you can make. No one can dictate you, only you knows how you can solve your conflict, because nobody knows yourself better but you.
Why will you walk away? Why will you always run away from people or for that someone that you have passionate connections? Be brave. Know their issues. Study, learn and analyze. It is a privelege that destiny gave you another chance together in this lifetime to settle whatever it is that you need to settle. So take the lead, initiate the talk. Listen, and you will not just win a friend for life but you will develop your self in the whole process of facing your weakness. Take note, everybody is a friend, it just so happen that they were assigned in this lifetime either to be our parent, brother, sister, spouse, children, relatives, etc. But those are just name tags with corresponding society's assignments. In the end, what truly made you stay together is because you are FRIENDS..... the love you shared, the respect you have for each other, the moments you treasure are not society's requirements but the passion you both have in your heart.
And if this is the case, who says nothing last forever...
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Wellness Tip for Peace: It's natural for humans to be insecured if there is no physical contact. But beyond physical, there is spiritual communication, and we call it Prayer
There's a typical notion that relationship happen between concerned parties only. We forget that in between any relationship, there is always a third party that sees all our transactions in our relationship. Someone that we cannot see in plain sight, and He is no other than but God. If we always consider that in any words we think, thought of, say and act upon to our fellow, God is watching and hears us then we can always be mindful of everything. Actually, no one is really alone, and in any relationship, it's always a family, consisting of you, the person that you are in a relationship with and God. So, if in case there's a communication gap, God is there to bridge the gap as He listen to your unceasing prayer. Wait, trust, and pray because you will be guided how to find the way to make the relationship work. Tell your thoughts to God, say what you really mean sincerely with all honesty. Just make a dialogue. Let go of the fear as you establish the connection until you gain the confidence to trust with all your heart whatever is God's will. In the process of doing so, your worries will vanish like shadows in the coming of light and you will gain peace.
Friday, June 29, 2012
Wellness Tip: End the Suffering. Simplify to get what you need for time is running out to enjoy it!
Human needs are complex. It goes beyond the food we eat, the clothes we wear, and the roof in our head. Humans are particular with social standing. The dignity of living. The enjoyment of the sensual life. The accumulation of material gains that defines human existence. The equality of rights, the seeking of justice, the perfection of human form in speech, action, words, choices, etc. The human culture is a never ending quest for what goes beyond what the eyes can see. Thus, if we sum up everything human desires are endless. So how do we get exactly what we need at a particular time in the least possible time and as much as possible the soonest. How do we get what we need now?!
The answer is to simplify. Itemize what you need in a scale of 1-10. Prioritize accordingly on what will make you suffer less and achieve your satisfaction. Jot down your golden virtues and pick one that you will hold as your torch to pursue in getting what you need. The golden virtues are the words given to us through our prayers that guides us in dealing life's pressures everyday. Once you hold at least one golden virtue and take it as your light, you will not get frustrated in getting what you need.
So simplify. What do you need now? Scale of 1-10. Prioritize. Pray for the virtue to hold you. Pursue. Pray for Guidance all throughout.
To prioritize is kinda' complicated if the object you wnat to purse is not a thing but a fellow human. So you ask and draw the line. Lay down your questions to the person and let the person know your thoughts so the person can understand what you mean. Thus, giving him/her the justice to respond to your needs honestly. Do not assume that things are not possible. ASK. Not until there is a dialogue betwen the two of you, then you cannot conclude if what you need is achievable or not. Do not make false judgement because you never know if the person is actually the gift to make your needs possible. Sometimes, we fail to see that the person that is always in our head is actually our angel. Be brave, talk and make a dialogue. Remember even if your meeting is just short, but it already got you, then probably destiny gave you the chance to work things out again in this lifetime. Don't let this moment pass you by again. Grab it while there is time and while nature is favoring your side. Believe, sometimes the solution to our suffering is just a phone call away.
The answer is to simplify. Itemize what you need in a scale of 1-10. Prioritize accordingly on what will make you suffer less and achieve your satisfaction. Jot down your golden virtues and pick one that you will hold as your torch to pursue in getting what you need. The golden virtues are the words given to us through our prayers that guides us in dealing life's pressures everyday. Once you hold at least one golden virtue and take it as your light, you will not get frustrated in getting what you need.
So simplify. What do you need now? Scale of 1-10. Prioritize. Pray for the virtue to hold you. Pursue. Pray for Guidance all throughout.
To prioritize is kinda' complicated if the object you wnat to purse is not a thing but a fellow human. So you ask and draw the line. Lay down your questions to the person and let the person know your thoughts so the person can understand what you mean. Thus, giving him/her the justice to respond to your needs honestly. Do not assume that things are not possible. ASK. Not until there is a dialogue betwen the two of you, then you cannot conclude if what you need is achievable or not. Do not make false judgement because you never know if the person is actually the gift to make your needs possible. Sometimes, we fail to see that the person that is always in our head is actually our angel. Be brave, talk and make a dialogue. Remember even if your meeting is just short, but it already got you, then probably destiny gave you the chance to work things out again in this lifetime. Don't let this moment pass you by again. Grab it while there is time and while nature is favoring your side. Believe, sometimes the solution to our suffering is just a phone call away.
Thursday, June 28, 2012
My passion to live the beauty of life goes where my heart is for "heart cannot be seperated from fire or beauty from the eternal"
I am a very passionate person. I feel the situation so close. There are no boundaries to me. Distance does not keep me from loving, neither conflict of personalities. I give in to the motion of emotion. To love is to forget to think but just to let love take its course.... freely, without reservation, without standards, without thinking what lies ahead at the end of the line.
This I've learned as I coursed through my journey of being attuned to myself and to the people I really care about. But mind you, this whole thing of loving freely is alien to me way back then. Then, when I was always angry because people doesn't put up to my standards. Then, way back, I think too much. So I forgot to love. Commitment to me then entails the same commitment to the people I hold my commitment. I stay because they stay. I love because they love. And the whole thing makes me happy? No, it didn't!
What I've learned in the course of my life journey is this. You know you really love when you don't care! Not that you don't care anymore to the people you love but you don't care anymore who they are, what they are, what they do, who are they with, what does it take, etc. I've realized that "real" love is liberating. Love is when you are free! To be free is to love! It is the freedom from the bondage of what other people think, on what others will say, on what the future holds. What matters is just the importance and significance of the feeling of loving at a certain moment and time for no one knows what will really happen next. I wish to live the beauty of life and I can only live it fully when I'm free! And I can only be free when I let myself love freely!
Sounds really ideal. And I guess, few will agree with me, especially when one tries to protect his/her status quo. Loving is risk, and risk is everything. Loving is the alternative choice to fighting. Loving instead of hating. Love instead of War. The choice is ours, but both has its effects. War is death and Love is life. If we end, we let death take its victory. If we pursue, we let life have its way...
If we love, we let go of the control and we let love take its control... until we are ready to go where nature will lead us. We feel every moment of it, near or far, wherever we are, we live, we breath, we feel, and we let our heart live freely
This I've learned as I coursed through my journey of being attuned to myself and to the people I really care about. But mind you, this whole thing of loving freely is alien to me way back then. Then, when I was always angry because people doesn't put up to my standards. Then, way back, I think too much. So I forgot to love. Commitment to me then entails the same commitment to the people I hold my commitment. I stay because they stay. I love because they love. And the whole thing makes me happy? No, it didn't!
What I've learned in the course of my life journey is this. You know you really love when you don't care! Not that you don't care anymore to the people you love but you don't care anymore who they are, what they are, what they do, who are they with, what does it take, etc. I've realized that "real" love is liberating. Love is when you are free! To be free is to love! It is the freedom from the bondage of what other people think, on what others will say, on what the future holds. What matters is just the importance and significance of the feeling of loving at a certain moment and time for no one knows what will really happen next. I wish to live the beauty of life and I can only live it fully when I'm free! And I can only be free when I let myself love freely!
Sounds really ideal. And I guess, few will agree with me, especially when one tries to protect his/her status quo. Loving is risk, and risk is everything. Loving is the alternative choice to fighting. Loving instead of hating. Love instead of War. The choice is ours, but both has its effects. War is death and Love is life. If we end, we let death take its victory. If we pursue, we let life have its way...
If we love, we let go of the control and we let love take its control... until we are ready to go where nature will lead us. We feel every moment of it, near or far, wherever we are, we live, we breath, we feel, and we let our heart live freely
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Peace Vigil 2012: Whatever is True and Real will be Unified
Keep the Faith, drop the fear. Seek the truth. Be yourself. Believe, peace is possible.
Searching the truth requires patience and discipline to maintain an open mind to analyze facts as they present it and/or as you discover it. Being sensitive not to give in to impulsive judgement.
People have the the habit of assessing people, situation, etc based on how they feel. The first impression to a person can be influential to one's decision and judgement to a person. This is injustice practice if we allow this kind of practice. No one knows the truth until further investigation and research. Every person should be regarded as innocent; and that goes the same with any situation. If we treat everyone innocent until proven guilty, we are practing simple justice.
To search for the truth is to know what kind of truth are we looking for. Truth can be relative, meaning it depends on the kind of truth that we are searching. There are a lot of facts leading to the truth. With all numerous fact, what is it that we really want to know, as of the moment. If we simplify what we kind of truth we want to know, we can focus our mind to solve the questions that bothers us.
As we search the truth that we are looking for, we ask the question, What really happened that lead to this scenario, conclusion, situation, problem / solution, etc. To know what happened in plain ans simple data without reservation or emotional attachment to the facts presented. Forget the emotion and follow the reason will help you to search for the truth. Be professional in dealing with the whole searching to guard oneself not to fall into judgement based on emotion. To have the conviction that the truth can set you free. Free from malicious thoughts, free from intriguing conclusions, free from imprisonment, free from fear, free from attachments, free from guilt, free from sufferings, free from silence, free to hope, free to have faith and free to love.
Once we know what really happened and we grasp the truth in our hand, the whole situation becomes Real. We can hold it as we see it in our eyes all the facts presented, all researches made, all arein place and we now have the right to make our conclusion. The judgement that we make will then give way to our reaction, passion will then follow lead by our emotion. The motion of our heart and mind based on the truth that we hold will fuel our passion to move and take the course of action.
So to sum up, if in an organization, unity seems impossible, check on the truth of relationships in the group. Is it real? If it is, then there's no question why it is unified? If it is not, how do you think peace work should find its way?
Searching the truth requires patience and discipline to maintain an open mind to analyze facts as they present it and/or as you discover it. Being sensitive not to give in to impulsive judgement.
People have the the habit of assessing people, situation, etc based on how they feel. The first impression to a person can be influential to one's decision and judgement to a person. This is injustice practice if we allow this kind of practice. No one knows the truth until further investigation and research. Every person should be regarded as innocent; and that goes the same with any situation. If we treat everyone innocent until proven guilty, we are practing simple justice.
To search for the truth is to know what kind of truth are we looking for. Truth can be relative, meaning it depends on the kind of truth that we are searching. There are a lot of facts leading to the truth. With all numerous fact, what is it that we really want to know, as of the moment. If we simplify what we kind of truth we want to know, we can focus our mind to solve the questions that bothers us.
As we search the truth that we are looking for, we ask the question, What really happened that lead to this scenario, conclusion, situation, problem / solution, etc. To know what happened in plain ans simple data without reservation or emotional attachment to the facts presented. Forget the emotion and follow the reason will help you to search for the truth. Be professional in dealing with the whole searching to guard oneself not to fall into judgement based on emotion. To have the conviction that the truth can set you free. Free from malicious thoughts, free from intriguing conclusions, free from imprisonment, free from fear, free from attachments, free from guilt, free from sufferings, free from silence, free to hope, free to have faith and free to love.
Once we know what really happened and we grasp the truth in our hand, the whole situation becomes Real. We can hold it as we see it in our eyes all the facts presented, all researches made, all arein place and we now have the right to make our conclusion. The judgement that we make will then give way to our reaction, passion will then follow lead by our emotion. The motion of our heart and mind based on the truth that we hold will fuel our passion to move and take the course of action.
So to sum up, if in an organization, unity seems impossible, check on the truth of relationships in the group. Is it real? If it is, then there's no question why it is unified? If it is not, how do you think peace work should find its way?
Friday, June 8, 2012
The Peaceful Way to Eat
When do we know we are at peace when we eat? It is when we feel good while eating the food that is given to us. When we feel obligated to eat foods because it has nutrional contents that our body needs, we are harass like a child forced to do something we don't like. Okay, so we eat only what we want which is most of the time, is not pack with nutrition that our body needs. So how do we reconcile? It's our brain, blame it to the way we programed our brain. As an adult, we already have the option to choose on how to live the life we wish to have. So we opt to live the life that is comfortable to us, less hassle, less pressure, manageable. Well, not unless, one is masochistic would she/he choose to live a horrifying life! Now, usually there is a typical notion that preparing healthy foods will take time, and that it is demanding. So how do we go about it, the whole thing of programming our brain? We feel, we research, we study, we think. We do this until the whole idea of eating well sink in to our system and it becomes a habit, eventually a way of life. First, we feel. The body has its pulse, it tells us what we need. Like, do you feel tired, are you always grasping for energy' can't you sleep well. If you feel any of these, you can always find a way to make your life comfortable by looking closely on the kind of food you eat. Research the food nutrients. Vitamin b rich foods helps on stress management, helps in focusing and better sleep. vitamin C rich foods is its partner as it cleanses your body of toxins, heals and detoxify.Study the food groups that is applicable to your body's needs. you may consult a certified nutrionist to deal with this matter on a more professional matter. the important thing is to form the conviction in your brain that you eat to heal and satsify yourself at the same time, all in all, you eat to feel good, look good and being good has the best benefits at the shortest possible time! once the conviction is set, everything follows. You set your mind and you get what you need, and the moment to do it is now. Achieving peace in our lifestyle is work and we can work it well in satisfying mode if we know that in our mind we like what we do. And we can only like it, if we are attuned to it. We can only focus ourselves to matters that we have passion. Passion to eat well is one step ahead to achieve peace within ourself and that will of course will transcend to the world we live in. Take a shot! You may like it!
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Wellness Tip for Peace: Regulate a Child's Emotion & Contribute to a Mentally Healthy & Peaceful Future
"It helps with the brain development that we need in order to have that stable foundation for going into adulthood, and dealing with the challenges that we face in adulthood. Being able to regulate our emotions, being able to know how to trust people, and how to develop relationships. All of those are skills that we need to negotiate adulthood," Copenhaver said."
'via Blog this'Healthy relationships help shape infant mental helath : News : UpperMichigansSource.com: "They can't talk back yet, but parental communication and nurturing is key to healthy baby. That's according to Melissa Copenhaver, a nurse who was at Peter White Public Library Thursday. She explained how early healthy relationships between caregivers and babies pave the way for a mentally-sound future.
'via Blog this'Healthy relationships help shape infant mental helath : News : UpperMichigansSource.com: "They can't talk back yet, but parental communication and nurturing is key to healthy baby. That's according to Melissa Copenhaver, a nurse who was at Peter White Public Library Thursday. She explained how early healthy relationships between caregivers and babies pave the way for a mentally-sound future.
Wellness Tip for Peace: Beyond material gains, it is knowing our Purpose in Life that can make us truly Happy
What We Know Now About How to Be Happy - Alice G. Walton - Health - The Atlantic: "People whose goals involved personal growth and the community were much happier than people who sought money or fame. This sounds a lot like the hedonic/ eudaimonic divide.
"By attaining the 'American Dream goals,' [big house, fancy car, designer clothes]" said the study's author Edward Deci, "you are actually feeling less satisfied in the need for autonomy and feeling effective in the world [because you are dependent on external measures outside your direct control], and that leads to more ill−being." So it seems like going after the material goods that are so appealing - a nice house, car, or bottle of wine - may actually make us more psychologically impoverished than the "larger" goals, like personal growth and self-satisfaction. This study underlines the divide between what we may think makes us happy and what actually makes us happy - and, by extension, healthy. "
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"By attaining the 'American Dream goals,' [big house, fancy car, designer clothes]" said the study's author Edward Deci, "you are actually feeling less satisfied in the need for autonomy and feeling effective in the world [because you are dependent on external measures outside your direct control], and that leads to more ill−being." So it seems like going after the material goods that are so appealing - a nice house, car, or bottle of wine - may actually make us more psychologically impoverished than the "larger" goals, like personal growth and self-satisfaction. This study underlines the divide between what we may think makes us happy and what actually makes us happy - and, by extension, healthy. "
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Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Wellness Tip: Nurture the Habit of Noticing What is Right About You & You'll Be Glad You Did!
8 Ways to Feel Happier | ThirdAge: "Affirmations are a time-honored way to cheer yourself up. That's because they really work! At least once a day, give yourself credit for being the wonderful person that you are. No accomplishment is too small to go unnoticed. Did you finally buy a pair of running shoes? That counts even if you didn't start running yet. Did you make it through half of your To Do list? That's better than not having tackled it at all. Did you let the person with one item go ahead of you in line at the checkout counter? Great! It all adds up. The trick is to nurture the habit of noticing what's right about you. You'll be glad you did."
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Wellness Tip: Write a "Journal of Blessings" Everyday & Plunge into the Challenge of Difficult Situation. Be Brave!
"Mentally tally up all that's right about your life no matter what challenges you may be facing at the moment. Better yet, make a written list. Some researchers contend that if you use a pen and paper instead of typing on your computer, the thankful feelings will be more potent and stick around longer."
'via Blog this'8 Ways to Feel Happier | ThirdAge:
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Wellness Tip: Stop Depression, Get Moving & Release the Happy Hormones "Endorphins" in Your Body
"There's a reason gym-rats who are subdued in the locker room before they work out end up coming back all bubbly and full of smiles. Physical activity spurs the production of endorphins, the happy hormones that give us a natural lift. In fact even seriously depressed people lighten up if they stop being couch potatoes. Find a way to fit some exercise into your life. You'll not only be healthier but you'll also be happier."
'via Blog this'8 Ways to Feel Happier | ThirdAge:
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Wellness Tip: Manage Stress: Practice Random Acts of Kindness
"Whether you volunteer at a soup kitchen or simply lend a supportive ear to someone who is going through a rough time, you'll get a feel-good rush known as "Helper's High." Study after study has shown that if people stop dwelling on their own issues and focus instead on reaching out to others, levels of stress hormones drop. When you make another person's life brighter, it's a win-win scenario."
'via Blog this'8 Ways to Feel Happier | ThirdAge:
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Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Tip: Believe in the Power of Love. Biological Study showed Romantic Love is Real and Can be Long-Lasting
Why some people cheat and some don't - Hindustan Times: "According to the study, when people looked at pictures of a new partner their brains fired in a region that processes the reward-inducing brain chemical dopamine. It's the same region that responds to food, alcohol and cocaine, and motivates people to want more of something. However, as with time, relationships often change and people commonly debate whether intense romantic love can last. To begin to test these theories, Aron and colleagues conducted the first brain-scan study of people in long-term love. In the lab, participants looked at pictures of their partner''s faces. Then they looked at a variety of comparison faces, including people they were close to but not passionately in love with. All the while, an fMRI machine recorded activity throughout their brains. Compared to the brain scans of people who had recently fallen in love, there were some differences. For example, the new lovers had activity in the parts of the brain related to tension and obsession. And only long-term lovers showed extra activity in areas related to attachment and pair bonding.
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But both groups showed comparable activity in a dopamine-processing region of the brain called the ventral tegmental area. Married partners who rated themselves highest on the scale of intense love showed more activity in that area than did long-term partners who reported slightly lower levels of intensity. "The question is if these claims of intense love in long-term relationships are real. This adds to our confidence that the answer is yes. This is confirmation that there's something real here. It''s not just people kidding themselves," said Aron.
The study, which focused on a group that held particularly strong feelings for their long-term partners, also suggested that couples who "simply strive to be happy together" may not be aiming high enough, said Arthur Aron, a of the Stony Brook University in New York.
The findings have been reported in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience.
The findings have been reported in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience.
Monday, January 2, 2012
Wellness Tip: Wear Something Red. "Red is a positive colour which, on a grey day, can really help brighten and lift up your mood"
Significance of the colour red in your life - Hindustan Times: "Red as a colour, says Dr Ramesh Kaushal, Reiki grandmaster, has the kind of energy and vibration that makes you feel confident. "It is a powerful colour that immediately connects you very differently to your environment," he says. "In fact red as a colour is recommended to people who might lack confidence. Red has the kind of energy that immediately peps you up." It's a sure-shot mood-lifter, agrees Dr Deepti Dhara, naturopath at Tulsi Holistic Centre, Kamla Nagar, Delhi. "Red is a positive colour which, on a grey day, can really help brighten and lift up your mood," she says. That's because red has a positive effect on your body, says wellness expert and Brunch columnist Dr Shikha Sharma. "Red is the colour of the mooldhara (root) chakra located at the base of the spine, which connects you to the outer world," she says. "It makes you industrious and increases your energy levels. Red also has great healing properties. For example it is recommended to treat degenerating bones.""
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Sunday, January 1, 2012
Tip: How to Break up with a Man: Be a Lady: Save His Pride: Avoid Feeding Any Drama
How to break up with a man | Match.com: "Be definitive
When telling a guy that it is over, be clear that it is absolutely, positively O-V-E-R. “Sometimes, we may be inclined to leave the door open — either to leave options open for ourselves or to soften the blow of the breakup for the other person — but this is dangerous territory,” says April Masini, author of Date Out of Your League. It might seem nice to offer the possibility that one day in the future, you two will possibly find your way back into each other’s arms... but all this does is give the poor guy false hope. And with false hope comes those desperate calls at 3 a.m. asking if you’re ready to take him back yet. “Make it clear that he needs to move on,” says John Seeley, M.A., author of Get Unstuck! The Simple Guide to Restart Your Life. “Guys would rather hear the truth and then know what they need to do to move forward in their lives.”"
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When telling a guy that it is over, be clear that it is absolutely, positively O-V-E-R. “Sometimes, we may be inclined to leave the door open — either to leave options open for ourselves or to soften the blow of the breakup for the other person — but this is dangerous territory,” says April Masini, author of Date Out of Your League. It might seem nice to offer the possibility that one day in the future, you two will possibly find your way back into each other’s arms... but all this does is give the poor guy false hope. And with false hope comes those desperate calls at 3 a.m. asking if you’re ready to take him back yet. “Make it clear that he needs to move on,” says John Seeley, M.A., author of Get Unstuck! The Simple Guide to Restart Your Life. “Guys would rather hear the truth and then know what they need to do to move forward in their lives.”"
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Don’t let him be the last to know your feelings
Sure, talking through your feelings with a friend can be helpful when working up the courage to break things off, but try to limit yourself to how many people hear the test run of your dumping speech ahead of time. Eventually, someone is going to tattle, and as any guy will tell you, being the last to know that you’ve been dumped is not fun. “My best friend told me that he heard my girlfriend was thinking of breaking up with me,” says 32-year-old Dave from Long Island, NY. “I later found out that all of my friends knew before I did. I was so angry and humiliated. I felt like the biggest fool on earth, walking around telling everyone how in love I was, and all of them knowing she was about to give me the boot. It was the worst.”
Don’t do it online
The Internet is great for many things: locating discount airfares, paying credit card bills, wasting hundreds of hours looking at weird sites; the list goes on and on. But one thing that is not on that list (and never should be) is dropping a boyfriend like a bad habit. “My ex dumped me twice online,” says Chris, 31, from Washington, MO. “Once by email after we’d spent the weekend together; the second time, she did it over IM. At least ‘woman up’ and tell me in person!” Seriously, canceling a relationship like you would a credit card will put you in his Worst Girlfriend Hall of Fame for life. “Voicemail, emails, Post-its and IMs are not cool ways to break up,” says Masini. “If you’ve spent more than three dates with the guy, you owe him a face-to-face sit-down discussion.” If you’re totally scared to do that, the phone can be an acceptable termination device — but only for short-term relationships.
Steer clear of using fake excuses
OK, you don’t have to tell someone point-blank that he is no longer worth your time, but lying your way out of a relationship is almost always going to backfire. He’ll feel twice as bad when he learns the truth, and you’ll feel like a jerk for doing it. “I went out a few times with this woman, and we talked a few times afterward,” says John, 34, from Virginia. “She worked as a government contractor at a submarine base and told me she’d been accepted to a top-secret program in Arizona that would last at least six months. Long story short: she was lying, and I bumped into her just a month later. And this was after we had a conversation about how awful it was that people couldn’t be honest!” If you want either one of you to maintain your dignity, tell him the truth. You don’t have to be brutally honest, though. “I just don’t feel a connection with you” is a perfectly good way of saying, “You are too busy for me” or “I didn’t know someone could kiss that badly.”
Be brief in your explanation
“Keep it short and sweet,” urges Stephany Alexander, relationship expert at womansavers.com. Unless you’ve been together for years and years, no breakup speech should last more than 30 minutes. You don’t need to give him every reason you want to end things; instead, just name one or two major problems and be done with it. The last thing you want is having him interpret your litany of ways he’s failed you romantically as a list of things he can change in order to win you back. Make it clear that this isn’t a negotiation. It may seem cruel to be brusque about it, but like ripping off a Band-Aid, the faster you do it, the faster you’ll feel better.
Avoid feeding any drama
A man with wounded pride and hurt feelings can get verbally abusive sometimes, so try to defuse the situation with silence. “Don’t engage with him,” says Masini. “Listen. Be quiet. Don’t respond.” Don’t fuel the fire by defending yourself. Let him get it all out, then leave. If you’re worried that the guy might hurt himself or someone else in the wake of your breakup, call a counselor or a police officer. Trying to take on a dangerous situation by yourself is just that — dangerous.
Secure a breakup buddy
“Breaking up can be overwhelming,” says Masini, “and it may cause you to want to call your ex for contact or comfort. After you break up, have plans to meet with a friend. Debrief over lunch and a movie.” Remove his number from your cell phone while you’re at it. Post-breakup conversations tend to lead to post-breakup reunions, and next thing you know, you’re having brunch together and wondering how the heck you wound up with this guy again. If you want to touch base to see how he’s doing, give it a couple of months at least. If he’s still sweet on you, any contact (no matter how innocent) is going to be interpreted as a ray of hope that love will spring again.
Dan Bova is the executive editor of Maxim
Sure, talking through your feelings with a friend can be helpful when working up the courage to break things off, but try to limit yourself to how many people hear the test run of your dumping speech ahead of time. Eventually, someone is going to tattle, and as any guy will tell you, being the last to know that you’ve been dumped is not fun. “My best friend told me that he heard my girlfriend was thinking of breaking up with me,” says 32-year-old Dave from Long Island, NY. “I later found out that all of my friends knew before I did. I was so angry and humiliated. I felt like the biggest fool on earth, walking around telling everyone how in love I was, and all of them knowing she was about to give me the boot. It was the worst.”
Don’t do it online
The Internet is great for many things: locating discount airfares, paying credit card bills, wasting hundreds of hours looking at weird sites; the list goes on and on. But one thing that is not on that list (and never should be) is dropping a boyfriend like a bad habit. “My ex dumped me twice online,” says Chris, 31, from Washington, MO. “Once by email after we’d spent the weekend together; the second time, she did it over IM. At least ‘woman up’ and tell me in person!” Seriously, canceling a relationship like you would a credit card will put you in his Worst Girlfriend Hall of Fame for life. “Voicemail, emails, Post-its and IMs are not cool ways to break up,” says Masini. “If you’ve spent more than three dates with the guy, you owe him a face-to-face sit-down discussion.” If you’re totally scared to do that, the phone can be an acceptable termination device — but only for short-term relationships.
Steer clear of using fake excuses
OK, you don’t have to tell someone point-blank that he is no longer worth your time, but lying your way out of a relationship is almost always going to backfire. He’ll feel twice as bad when he learns the truth, and you’ll feel like a jerk for doing it. “I went out a few times with this woman, and we talked a few times afterward,” says John, 34, from Virginia. “She worked as a government contractor at a submarine base and told me she’d been accepted to a top-secret program in Arizona that would last at least six months. Long story short: she was lying, and I bumped into her just a month later. And this was after we had a conversation about how awful it was that people couldn’t be honest!” If you want either one of you to maintain your dignity, tell him the truth. You don’t have to be brutally honest, though. “I just don’t feel a connection with you” is a perfectly good way of saying, “You are too busy for me” or “I didn’t know someone could kiss that badly.”
Be brief in your explanation
“Keep it short and sweet,” urges Stephany Alexander, relationship expert at womansavers.com. Unless you’ve been together for years and years, no breakup speech should last more than 30 minutes. You don’t need to give him every reason you want to end things; instead, just name one or two major problems and be done with it. The last thing you want is having him interpret your litany of ways he’s failed you romantically as a list of things he can change in order to win you back. Make it clear that this isn’t a negotiation. It may seem cruel to be brusque about it, but like ripping off a Band-Aid, the faster you do it, the faster you’ll feel better.
Avoid feeding any drama
A man with wounded pride and hurt feelings can get verbally abusive sometimes, so try to defuse the situation with silence. “Don’t engage with him,” says Masini. “Listen. Be quiet. Don’t respond.” Don’t fuel the fire by defending yourself. Let him get it all out, then leave. If you’re worried that the guy might hurt himself or someone else in the wake of your breakup, call a counselor or a police officer. Trying to take on a dangerous situation by yourself is just that — dangerous.
Secure a breakup buddy
“Breaking up can be overwhelming,” says Masini, “and it may cause you to want to call your ex for contact or comfort. After you break up, have plans to meet with a friend. Debrief over lunch and a movie.” Remove his number from your cell phone while you’re at it. Post-breakup conversations tend to lead to post-breakup reunions, and next thing you know, you’re having brunch together and wondering how the heck you wound up with this guy again. If you want to touch base to see how he’s doing, give it a couple of months at least. If he’s still sweet on you, any contact (no matter how innocent) is going to be interpreted as a ray of hope that love will spring again.
Dan Bova is the executive editor of Maxim
Tip: How to Break up with a Woman: Be a Man, Give Her the Dignity of Ending the Connection in Person
How to break up with a woman: "Don’t just pull a disappearing act on her
Sadly, this is an all too common tactic with men, but listen up: it’s just not cool at all. “My friends and I agree that there’s nothing worse than fading away into oblivion!” says 29-year-old Stacey from Pensacola, FL. “Then the girl is left just wondering and waiting.” Women need some sort of closure, and you owe her some kind of explanation before you decide to vanish from her life."
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Sadly, this is an all too common tactic with men, but listen up: it’s just not cool at all. “My friends and I agree that there’s nothing worse than fading away into oblivion!” says 29-year-old Stacey from Pensacola, FL. “Then the girl is left just wondering and waiting.” Women need some sort of closure, and you owe her some kind of explanation before you decide to vanish from her life."
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Consider the timing before breaking the bad news to her
Though it’s not totally your responsibility to see how she survives the breakup, you can help ease the transition by carefully considering when to break the bad news to her. “It’s thoughtful and courteous to be aware of what is going on in her life,” says JoAnn Magdoff, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City. In other words, don’t be an extra-special jerk by delivering the news when she’s already going through a rough patch. If she lost her job yesterday, give her a little time to adjust before having the big talk.
Don’t rely on technology to do the deed
We live in a world of cell phones, BlackBerries and IMs, which means it’s easier than ever to get in touch with each other... but please don’t use it as a way to escape confrontation. “Using technology to break up is a cowardly act — it means you don’t have the nerve to face me,” says Kerry, 37, from Portsmouth, NH. “If you liked me enough to kiss me, spend time with me, and have a romance with me, then I think the very least you can do is honor that connection by ending it in person.”
Give her adequate face time
You may be tempted to deliver the news and then get the heck out of there, but there’s nothing worse than bringing up the subject when you don’t have adequate time to discuss it. Yes, that means you will have to talk to her and you might have to witness some tears, but it’s the right thing to do. “My ex broke up with me by meeting me for coffee, and we had a very open and civilized conversation,” says Gigi, 39, from New York, NY. “Yes, it still hurt... but because of the classy way he handled it, we didn’t lose our friendship, too.”
Choose your breakup location wisely
There’s no reason to break the news behind closed doors — but a bit of privacy can be a good thing. What youshouldn’t do is deliver the news anywhere that she’ll lose her dignity. “If you’re at a party surrounded by friends where everyone will see her if she bursts into tears, that’s not a good call,” says Wygant. “This is between the two of you, not your whole posse.” Wygant also suggests staying away from your favorite haunt or the place where you had your first date (or anywhere that could evoke painful memories). Think neutral, semi-private, and let her save face if she becomes overwhelmed with emotion.
Don’t be cruel in the name of honesty
Women need “reasons” so they can accept the breakup and move on. But there’s one big caveat… don’t be spiteful or hurtful when you give them to her. “Getting broken up with is insulting at some level and just being rejected feels bad enough. So why make the person feel worse?” offers Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Instant Persuasion: How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life. No woman wants to hear that you’re dumping her because she has bad breath, or that she’s no longer attractive to you, or you’re insanely attracted to her best friend. These kinds of reflections shouldn’t be shared: “You’re no longer entitled to give advice or criticism because you aren’t her boyfriend anymore,” says Puhn. Instead, your reasons for the split should focus on how you two aren’t good matches for each other. Try saying something like, “Both of us are good people, but I don’t think we’re the right fit together romantically.”
Stay strong in your assertion that it’s time to end things
You start to deliver the news; you see her lip start to quiver and you think, Oh no, she’s going to cry. Should you attempt to soften the blow by saying, “Well, there might be a chance for us in the future but right now the timing isn’t good” or “Maybe when things quiet down at work” or “I think I just need a break” (or whatever will quieten her down)? No, no, no! Giving a woman a false sense of hope will not help her heal. “If you know it’s over, spare her the agony of pretending that you might call her sometime when you won’t,” says Magdoff. “If you really aren’t certain about the future, you can say ‘I’m not sure, but please don’t hold your breath…’”
Don’t freak out if she gets emotional afterward
We’re reputed to be the more sensitive gender, remember? So yes, there’s a chance that she might start sobbing or screaming or otherwise emoting (and you need to let her do whatever it is instead of trying to quieten her down). “If she gets hostile or weepy, stay calm and let her get angry or hysterical for a little while; remember, you’ve been thinking about the breakup for weeks, she heard about it 10 seconds ago,” says Puhn. If she gets more and more worked up as the minutes pass, however, take your leave and give her some down time to adjust to this new information. “Before walking away, however, set a specific time to talk later to give her security that you’re willing to explain yourself and listen to what she has to say when she’s calmed down,” Puhn adds.
Don’t use that “It’s not you, it’s me” line on her
Everyone knows that if someone leaves you, it’s because you’re not who this person wants to date — and that’s the bottom line. “Anyone on the receiving end of this line can see through it,” says Magdoff. She suggests that a better phrase to utter might be, “Who you are and what you want are absolutely terrific, but where I am right now is a very different place.”
End things properly with her before you start seeing someone else
Uh, hello? That’s called cheating! And if you intentionally stray in an effort to make her break up with you, you’re a coward and deserve whatever reaction you get. Also, forget about using the “I’ve met someone else” escape clause. Introducing a new love into a breakup discussion only tortures your soon-to-be ex. “After three years together, my boyfriend ended it with me over the phone by saying he’d met another woman on his trip to Europe,” says Jenny, 30, from Seattle, WA. “I spent the next two years wondering, What’s it like for them? Is it different from when he and I were together? Do they order the same kind of takeout? Do they listen to the same music we listened to? Do they laugh as much? Do they laugh more? And what makes her so much more appealing than me?” Get the point? Mentioning another woman really hurts and unnecessarily intensifies the pain.
It’s OK to agree to keep in touch (on special occasions only)
Calling just to check up on her in a week or even a month is not really helpful. It just confuses things and catapults you back into the forefront of her mind. There is one exception here, though… the special occasion. “If it’s her birthday or a holiday and you were very close, then it is sweet to call to wish her well,” says Puhn. However, don’t call to make plans, don’t call to discuss sensitive issues and don’t talk with her for longer than 10 minutes. “Be acquaintances and keep in mind that acquaintances rarely talk more than twice a year,” says Puhn.
Reassure her
One final point — let her know that she mattered to you. Puhn suggests saying something like “I enjoyed being with you, and I value the time we spent together, but we just aren’t right for the long run.” She needs to know that you didn’t consider her ‘a waste of time’ or unimportant. That will help her risk giving her heart to someone else in the future.
Kimberly Dawn Neumann is a New York City-based freelance writer whose work has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Maxim, and Marie Claire
Though it’s not totally your responsibility to see how she survives the breakup, you can help ease the transition by carefully considering when to break the bad news to her. “It’s thoughtful and courteous to be aware of what is going on in her life,” says JoAnn Magdoff, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City. In other words, don’t be an extra-special jerk by delivering the news when she’s already going through a rough patch. If she lost her job yesterday, give her a little time to adjust before having the big talk.
Don’t rely on technology to do the deed
We live in a world of cell phones, BlackBerries and IMs, which means it’s easier than ever to get in touch with each other... but please don’t use it as a way to escape confrontation. “Using technology to break up is a cowardly act — it means you don’t have the nerve to face me,” says Kerry, 37, from Portsmouth, NH. “If you liked me enough to kiss me, spend time with me, and have a romance with me, then I think the very least you can do is honor that connection by ending it in person.”
Give her adequate face time
You may be tempted to deliver the news and then get the heck out of there, but there’s nothing worse than bringing up the subject when you don’t have adequate time to discuss it. Yes, that means you will have to talk to her and you might have to witness some tears, but it’s the right thing to do. “My ex broke up with me by meeting me for coffee, and we had a very open and civilized conversation,” says Gigi, 39, from New York, NY. “Yes, it still hurt... but because of the classy way he handled it, we didn’t lose our friendship, too.”
Choose your breakup location wisely
There’s no reason to break the news behind closed doors — but a bit of privacy can be a good thing. What youshouldn’t do is deliver the news anywhere that she’ll lose her dignity. “If you’re at a party surrounded by friends where everyone will see her if she bursts into tears, that’s not a good call,” says Wygant. “This is between the two of you, not your whole posse.” Wygant also suggests staying away from your favorite haunt or the place where you had your first date (or anywhere that could evoke painful memories). Think neutral, semi-private, and let her save face if she becomes overwhelmed with emotion.
Don’t be cruel in the name of honesty
Women need “reasons” so they can accept the breakup and move on. But there’s one big caveat… don’t be spiteful or hurtful when you give them to her. “Getting broken up with is insulting at some level and just being rejected feels bad enough. So why make the person feel worse?” offers Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Instant Persuasion: How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life. No woman wants to hear that you’re dumping her because she has bad breath, or that she’s no longer attractive to you, or you’re insanely attracted to her best friend. These kinds of reflections shouldn’t be shared: “You’re no longer entitled to give advice or criticism because you aren’t her boyfriend anymore,” says Puhn. Instead, your reasons for the split should focus on how you two aren’t good matches for each other. Try saying something like, “Both of us are good people, but I don’t think we’re the right fit together romantically.”
Stay strong in your assertion that it’s time to end things
You start to deliver the news; you see her lip start to quiver and you think, Oh no, she’s going to cry. Should you attempt to soften the blow by saying, “Well, there might be a chance for us in the future but right now the timing isn’t good” or “Maybe when things quiet down at work” or “I think I just need a break” (or whatever will quieten her down)? No, no, no! Giving a woman a false sense of hope will not help her heal. “If you know it’s over, spare her the agony of pretending that you might call her sometime when you won’t,” says Magdoff. “If you really aren’t certain about the future, you can say ‘I’m not sure, but please don’t hold your breath…’”
Don’t freak out if she gets emotional afterward
We’re reputed to be the more sensitive gender, remember? So yes, there’s a chance that she might start sobbing or screaming or otherwise emoting (and you need to let her do whatever it is instead of trying to quieten her down). “If she gets hostile or weepy, stay calm and let her get angry or hysterical for a little while; remember, you’ve been thinking about the breakup for weeks, she heard about it 10 seconds ago,” says Puhn. If she gets more and more worked up as the minutes pass, however, take your leave and give her some down time to adjust to this new information. “Before walking away, however, set a specific time to talk later to give her security that you’re willing to explain yourself and listen to what she has to say when she’s calmed down,” Puhn adds.
Don’t use that “It’s not you, it’s me” line on her
Everyone knows that if someone leaves you, it’s because you’re not who this person wants to date — and that’s the bottom line. “Anyone on the receiving end of this line can see through it,” says Magdoff. She suggests that a better phrase to utter might be, “Who you are and what you want are absolutely terrific, but where I am right now is a very different place.”
End things properly with her before you start seeing someone else
Uh, hello? That’s called cheating! And if you intentionally stray in an effort to make her break up with you, you’re a coward and deserve whatever reaction you get. Also, forget about using the “I’ve met someone else” escape clause. Introducing a new love into a breakup discussion only tortures your soon-to-be ex. “After three years together, my boyfriend ended it with me over the phone by saying he’d met another woman on his trip to Europe,” says Jenny, 30, from Seattle, WA. “I spent the next two years wondering, What’s it like for them? Is it different from when he and I were together? Do they order the same kind of takeout? Do they listen to the same music we listened to? Do they laugh as much? Do they laugh more? And what makes her so much more appealing than me?” Get the point? Mentioning another woman really hurts and unnecessarily intensifies the pain.
It’s OK to agree to keep in touch (on special occasions only)
Calling just to check up on her in a week or even a month is not really helpful. It just confuses things and catapults you back into the forefront of her mind. There is one exception here, though… the special occasion. “If it’s her birthday or a holiday and you were very close, then it is sweet to call to wish her well,” says Puhn. However, don’t call to make plans, don’t call to discuss sensitive issues and don’t talk with her for longer than 10 minutes. “Be acquaintances and keep in mind that acquaintances rarely talk more than twice a year,” says Puhn.
Reassure her
One final point — let her know that she mattered to you. Puhn suggests saying something like “I enjoyed being with you, and I value the time we spent together, but we just aren’t right for the long run.” She needs to know that you didn’t consider her ‘a waste of time’ or unimportant. That will help her risk giving her heart to someone else in the future.
Kimberly Dawn Neumann is a New York City-based freelance writer whose work has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Maxim, and Marie Claire
Self-Confidence is Healthy Self within
Don’t let the setbacks steer you off course. There may or may not be rejection, and if there is, it’s best to focus on the positive instead of the negative. If you are going to be working on your physical features, do it for yourself instead of trying to impress others. After all, being in good health boosts your confidence. So put your best efforts -- physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: # 9. "I will make My Body Strong & My Mind Healthy by Eating Unprocessed Foods
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "Our bodies weren't built to withstand the rapid changes we've witnessed in our food industry. The hunting and gathering we once did has turned into drive-throughs, super-sized meals, and chemically laden foods our organs don't have the ability to use or process. Eating the right amounts of carbohydrates, fats, and protein based on ancient genetics keeps you from eating either too little or too much, both of which cause us to hold onto unwanted and unnecessary body fat. Drink lots of water and eat whole, unprocessed foods. "
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: #8 "I will Slow Down to Get Faster"
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "n the modern world, most people feel they must push their bodies and souls to the limit to make any gains in fitness, or in life. Slowing down allows your body to run more efficiently. Apply small focused changes that are gradual versus intense."
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: # 7. "I will Surround Myself of People I want to Live with"
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "Asking for a healthy soul but choosing unsupportive friends will only prevent you from finding peace. Asking for a fit body, but eating junk foods, will only sabotage your own success. Surround yourself with actions, thoughts, and people who will empower you and allow you to achieve your personal success."
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: #6. "I will Know & Set my Quest"
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "To get somewhere, you first have to know where you want to go. What physical goals are you striving toward? What kind of person do you want to become? Having these answers sets your intentions, helps focus your efforts, and provides you with tangible ways to measure the results. Set small goals. Set yourself up for success; for example, schedule your workouts at a time when you'll be most likely to do them. Turn your attention away from negative thoughts."
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: #5. "I will Honor Myself"
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: ". Self-love is the best way to honor yourself, and the most immediate tool you can use to fortify yourself against negative emotions like fear or self-doubt. Learning to honor and love yourself instantly transforms "need" into "peace." One of the factors that eats away at self-love is boredom--boredom with work, boredom with your own repetitious behaviors, boredom with life. Try to find what's new in the old; seek out new ways of thinking and behaving. Draw strength, support, and affirmation from community."
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: #4. I will Reconnect with the Spiritual Side of Nature
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "Who hasn't been touched by a rose in bloom or trees coming to life in the springtime? Having a sense that you and Mother Earth have a special relationship lets you know that everything is as it should be, which makes our souls happy. The more you connect to nature, the more open you will be to its wisdom and calming influence."
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: #3. I will Transform My Fear, Anger & Jealousy
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "Good thoughts lead us to incredible awareness and experiences. Olympic athletes know this, which is why they psych themselves up before a big event. Each day brings personal "Olympic moments"--for instance, an important meeting, a big workout, a tough but necessary talk with a friend, or a commitment to a daily spiritual practice. Fear, anger, and jealousy hinder our optimal performance. Bite off a smaller chunk of tasks that seem overwhelming. Get perspective on the real significance of your troubles and reactions by being out in nature. Accept the fact that challenge is normal and life is not controllable."
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2012 New Year's Resolution 9 Tips: #2 "I Will Quiet My Mind"
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "Ignoring external chatter and focusing on one thought or a single repetition is an extremely effective tool for dissipating emotional stress and helping shift negative thoughts. Learning to quiet your mind also helps to reduce cortisol levels in your body and increase DHEA, a feel-good hormone that promotes feeling of serenity. Quieting your mind can help you sleep better, eat more healthfully, and keep work and life pressures in perspective. One of the best ways to quiet your mind is to exercise, especially outside"
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2012 New Year's Resolution Tips: # 1. "I will Balance My Responses to Stress"
Nine Keys To Health And Happiness In The New Year | ThirdAge: "Chronic stress produces high cortisol levels that don't go away. Chronically high cortisol will make you sick, physically and emotionally. Stress can come from multiple sources including these six: negative emotions, too little sleep, poor diet, overwork, toxic chemicals, and inflammation. The antidote for stress is balance. Look at each of these six stress triggers individually and work on finding small ways to reduce excesses and achieve more balance in each area. Seek more laughter, calmness, and clarity in your life."
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Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Tip: Being Responsible with Other People teaches us how to be more Careful with our own Life & Be Better Caretaker of our Self
10 Ways to Beat the Blues | ThirdAge: "Stay Connected with Friends and Family
Fighting off guilt after spending an hour on Facebook? New research suggests staying connected with friends and family isnt only good for the latest gossip, its actually good for your mental health. When someone is connected to a group and feels responsibility to other people, that sense of purpose and meaning translates to taking better care of themselves and taking fewer risks," explains Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a psychologist at Brigham Young University."
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Fighting off guilt after spending an hour on Facebook? New research suggests staying connected with friends and family isnt only good for the latest gossip, its actually good for your mental health. When someone is connected to a group and feels responsibility to other people, that sense of purpose and meaning translates to taking better care of themselves and taking fewer risks," explains Julianne Holt-Lunstad, a psychologist at Brigham Young University."
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Tip: Try Something New. Variation in Daily Routine can help fight the Blues
10 Ways to Beat the Blues | ThirdAge: "Try Something New
Whether trying a new dish for dinner, or a listening to a new playlist on your way to work, variation in your daily routine can help the blues. "When you're unhappy, known things, familiar things lose their appeal. Novelty, on the other hand, becomes more attractive," explains Piotr Winkielman, psychology professor at the University of California San Diego."
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Whether trying a new dish for dinner, or a listening to a new playlist on your way to work, variation in your daily routine can help the blues. "When you're unhappy, known things, familiar things lose their appeal. Novelty, on the other hand, becomes more attractive," explains Piotr Winkielman, psychology professor at the University of California San Diego."
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Tip: daily Exercise can help fight anxiety & can improve your mood
10 Ways to Beat the Blues | ThirdAge: "While the thought of exercise can sound like a downer to a couch potato, research suggests getting your butt to the gym might just put a smile on your face. Daily exercise can help you fight depression, anxiety, and generally improve your mood, so turn off the TV and move!"
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Tip: Meditation shifts Brain Waves fr Stress-Prone Right Frontal Cortex of Brain to More Relaxed Left Frontal Cortex- reducing mild depression
10 Ways to Beat the Blues | ThirdAge: "Dating back centuries, meditation is a staple technique to fight stress, but new research suggests this behavior can even lighten your mood. A recent study at the University of Massachusetts found that meditation shifts brain waves from the stress-prone right frontal cortex of our brain, to the more relaxed, left frontal cortex, reducing stress, mild depression, and even anxiety."
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Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Healthy Body Tip: List of Vitamins, Minerals and Amino Acids that Support Healing
Neal M. Blitz, D.P.M., F.A.C.F.A.S.: What Vitamins Should You Take Before Surgery?:
"Vitamin C: Necessary to build and rebuild collagen throughout the body. Vitamin C is also a powerful antioxidant that supports the immune response.
Vitamin A: Supports immune system functioning and aids collagen strength. Also required for bone development.
Zinc: An essential trace mineral used in enzymatic reactions involved in tissue and wound healing, regeneration and repair.
Vitamin K: Aids the natural blood clotting response and is important for bone health.
B-Vitamins: Cellular metabolism, tissue repair and immune support.
Vitamin D & Calcium: Important for bone health.
Magnesium: Mineral involved in approximately 300 biochemical reactions.
Amino Acids (L-Arginine, L-Glutamine): Two key amino acids for wound repair and immune function."
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Vitamin A: Supports immune system functioning and aids collagen strength. Also required for bone development.
Zinc: An essential trace mineral used in enzymatic reactions involved in tissue and wound healing, regeneration and repair.
Vitamin K: Aids the natural blood clotting response and is important for bone health.
B-Vitamins: Cellular metabolism, tissue repair and immune support.
Vitamin D & Calcium: Important for bone health.
Magnesium: Mineral involved in approximately 300 biochemical reactions.
Amino Acids (L-Arginine, L-Glutamine): Two key amino acids for wound repair and immune function."
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Thursday, December 15, 2011
Wellness Tip for Peace: Good Friends Can Keep You Healthy
Good Friends Can Keep You Healthy | ThirdAge: "An Australian study conducted by the Centre for Aging at Flinders University followed nearly 1,500 older people for 10 years. It found that those who had a large network of friends outlived by 22 percent those with the fewest friends.
The authors of the study suspect that good friends discourage unhealthy habits such as smoking and heavy drinking. And the companionship provided by friends may ward off depression, boost self-esteem, and provide support. As you might have noticed in your own life, when we age, we become more selective in our choice of friends; so we spend more time with people we truly like. Thus, our friendships tend to be less stressful than they might have been when we were younger."
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The authors of the study suspect that good friends discourage unhealthy habits such as smoking and heavy drinking. And the companionship provided by friends may ward off depression, boost self-esteem, and provide support. As you might have noticed in your own life, when we age, we become more selective in our choice of friends; so we spend more time with people we truly like. Thus, our friendships tend to be less stressful than they might have been when we were younger."
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Tip: Eat Omega Rich Foods & Exercise to Beat SADness (Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
How to Beat Seasonal Affective Disorder Page 3 | ThirdAge: "Eat a diet rich in Omega3s and other essential nutrients. Get enough sleep. And – you knew this was coming – exercise regularly. An active lifestyle helps releases your endorphins and increase your levels of serotonin and melatonin"
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Tip: Take time to Meditate & Allot time to Socialize to beat SADness (Seasonal Affective Disorder)
How to Beat Seasonal Affective Disorder Page 2 | ThirdAge: "Mind-body therapies Many people say they are helped by acupuncture, Yoga, meditation, and massage therapy. These treatments are certainly worth a try. Socialize Sitting home alone and brooding will only worsen your mood. Push yourself to get out and about. Having a good laugh with friends and family"
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Tip: Expose yourself to BRIGHT LIGHT & Beat SADness (Seasonal Affective Disorder)
How to Beat Seasonal Affective Disorder Page 2 | ThirdAge: "Light therapy Also called phototherapy, this involves sitting a few feet from a box that exposes you to a special light that can increase the levels of the brain chemicals that have been depleted. You'll generally need two to four days of this to feel a difference. "
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Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Why are you SAD? Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
How to Beat Seasonal Affective Disorder | ThirdAge: "Circadian rhythms are disrupted. Your body's internal biological clock that lets you know when you should sleep and when you should wake up is thrown out of kilter. The resulting sleep disturbances and feelings of disorientation can contribute to depression.
Serotonin and melatonin levels plummet.The supply of two of your brain's most important "happy chemicals" dwindles during the long, dark days of winter. That may trigger symptoms such as anxiety, hopelessness, fatigue, worthlessness, irritability, trouble concentrating, memory lapses, restlessness, and loss of interest or pleasure in activities you typically enjoy."
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Serotonin and melatonin levels plummet.The supply of two of your brain's most important "happy chemicals" dwindles during the long, dark days of winter. That may trigger symptoms such as anxiety, hopelessness, fatigue, worthlessness, irritability, trouble concentrating, memory lapses, restlessness, and loss of interest or pleasure in activities you typically enjoy."
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Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Wellness Tip for Peace: Letting Go of Grudge: You can't change what happened, but you can change your attitude & interpretation of what happened
"FORGIVE. Remind yourself that you’re not perfect. How many times have you made a mistake? Finally, letting go of a grudge doesn’t mean you’re condoning a hurtful action, or excusing bad behavior, it means you’re moving on so that you can put emotional control back in your own hands."
'via Blog this'Eight Ways To Let Go Of A Grudge Page 2 | ThirdAge:
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Dressing Up Tip: Look Good for Less: Rule of Thumb for Saving: Estimate how many Seasons your going to Wear that for...
"In the business world, men are often judged by their shoes while women are judged on their handbags. Men need to stay away from the gum-soled shoes and splurge for a good pair of shoes that can be repaired and be kept polished. Women can go with one or two good pairs of pumps but can save money on the trendy shoes that come and go with each passing fashion season."
'via Blog this'5 Ways to Look Good for Less | ThirdAge:
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Monday, December 12, 2011
Wellness Tip: Prevent Heart Attack: Your Belly Size should be Less than Half of Your Height
Best Health Advice From Dr. Oz Page 3 | ThirdAge: "He pointed out that the endurance you have at 17 can be maintained through physical exercise until you are 65. And he gave a tip that your belly size should be less than half of your height. The big issue, he said, is how much muscle you have compared to how much fat you have. “Muscles burn calories even when they are not exercising. You must do exercise including weight lifting, exercises with deep breathing like yoga, tai chi.” He concluded that to keep your bones strong, your brain cells functioning, and to live long and maintain your strength, you must exercise at every stage of your life. "
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Sunday, December 11, 2011
External Beauty Tips: For Healthy & Younger Looking Skin
> "Get a little rough. “To keep skin cells active and awake, gently slap your face all over. This strategy improves circulation, which in turn helps remove toxic wastes,” reveals Dr. Obagi. “Your skin is pretty resilient—it can handle more than a little pinkie tap.”
> Shorten your shower. “Hot water sucks the life out of skin, promoting water and electrolyte loss,” Dr. Obagi explains. “When your skin is dehydrated, it becomes taut and irritated and looks older. Cleanse with tepid water, and shower only once a day. Keep showers speedy—10 minutes, max—and apply a good body lotion while your skin is still damp.”"
'via Blog this' Surprising Tips From a Top Dermatologist | ThirdAge:
> Reverse your age overnight. “Some of the best skincare ingredients are deactivated by sunlight, so it’s pointless to apply them during the day,” Dr. Obagi says. “At night, your skin cells renew themselves with retinol, surface repair agents, and anti-inflammatory agents. My Ommerse Overnight Recovery Crème does the work for you as you sleep by employing ceramides to rebuild the skin’s barrier function and protect against inflammation.”
> Catch some beauty Zzz’s. “Getting fewer than 7-8 hours of sleep will cause premature aging, as well as dark circles and puffiness under the eyes,” Dr. Obagi cautions. “Your skin will look much more relaxed and healthy if you’re well rested.”
Zein Obagi, M.D., a Diplomat at the American Board of Dermatology and a Fellow of the American Academy of Dermatology, is world-renowned for his unique approach to anti-aging skin care. He has maintained a practice at his Obagi Skin Health Institute in Beverly Hills since 1981. Dr. Obagi created ZO Skin Health and his original Obagi Nu-Derm System which he has taught to other dermatologists in training sessions around the globe. Please visitwww.zoskinhealth.com.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Tip: To be Physically Fit, Mentally Calm & Emotionally Steady, Accept that Everything Changes but Maintain "Point of Reference Acknowledging Changes"
"The awareness that everything changes -- the body undergoes changes and so does the mind -- brings a sense of equanimity within us. The mind is the sense of perception in our consciousness and the thoughts that change all the time. Likewise, the intellect, memory, and ego also change with time. But there is something within us that does not change -- it is the point of reference through which we are able to recognize that everything else changes. This subtlest, unchanging aspect of our existence is the self. The ancient science of Ayurveda deems that a person cannot be called truly healthy, until one is in touch with this subtlest aspect, and there is harmony among the different layers of existence. This knowledge of the self helps one live in the present moment and be in a state of perfect health."
'via Blog this'Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: 5 Steps to Healthier Living:
'via Blog this'Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: 5 Steps to Healthier Living:
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Wellness Tip for Peace: Holidays are Demanding. Practice Mindfulness Relaxation & Have Healthy Distraction to Manage Stress Level & Avoid Addictions
"In addition to the holidays, we live in a society where there are multiple demands on us almost all the time. We need to put greater emphasis on protective factors like sitting down with the family or exercising or putting away all the electronic devices. We also need to focus on mindfulness which we all do in some form or another. Having hobbies is one as well as relaxation. They all provide healthy distractions on stress and allow us to focus on oneself. So as you struggle to find the best bargains, what meals to prepare and who to invite for the holidays, you should take a moment to remember what the holidays is about. It is to share joy with friends, families and others. Make sure you take breathers in your busy schedules to practice stress reductions techniques"
'via Blog this'Healthy Living: Holiday Stress - WABI TV5:
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Sunday, December 4, 2011
Wellness for Peace Tip: Hugs, eye contact and kisses grow new neurons, and connect them in healthy ways to other neurons to strengthen relationship
"Studies show they also reduce stress, enhance the immune system, lower blood pressure, and in general affect positive feel-good changes to your mood. The release of hormones, such as oxytocin, endorphins, serotonin, and dopamime, among others, nourishes the cells of the body and makes partners feel-good in relation to one another. In couple relationships, they also strengthen the emotional connection, and increase the desire of each partner to repeat more of the love-response behaviors. You can literally kiss, hug, and use your eyes and touch, to energize and amp up your love experience."
'via Blog this'20 Ways to Amp Up The Love (Boost Oxytocin Naturally) In Your Couple Relationship | Neuroscience and Relationships:
'via Blog this'20 Ways to Amp Up The Love (Boost Oxytocin Naturally) In Your Couple Relationship | Neuroscience and Relationships:
Philippines: It is Mindanao where the barangay justice system is most important
"At the gathering called BJP End of Congress held the other day in Davao City, the LGUs of Maguindanao, Tawi-tawi, Davao del Sur, Cotabato, Saranggani, Zamboanga del Norte, Zamboanga del Sur, and Zamboanga Sibugay have donated almost P8 million pesos for the expansion of BJP activities, especially in the barangays where the impact is still not felt. BJP is a 2-year program under the Mindanao Peace and Development Program of US Agency for International Development (USAID) and the Mindanao Development Authority (MinDA), and is implemented by the Gerry Roxas Foundation. It aims to reduce violent conflicts in Mindanao barangays and strengthen alternative dispute resolution mechanisms in the barangays. After two years, the program was able to train and mobilize not less than 3,000 barangay justice advocates all over their target municipalities and cities, and have resolved roughly 11,000 community conflicts. Gloria Steele, USAID Mission Director expressed her appreciation for the commitments made by the LGUs representatives to sustain and replicate the program."
'via Blog this'[PIA News] Mindanao LGUs commit to bring community peace in more barangays:Gloria Steele, USAID Mission Director expressed her appreciation for the commitments made by the LGUs representatives to sustain and replicate the program.
'via Blog this'[PIA News] Mindanao LGUs commit to bring community peace in more barangays:Gloria Steele, USAID Mission Director expressed her appreciation for the commitments made by the LGUs representatives to sustain and replicate the program.
“I have worked for USAID for almost 30 years, and we have always wondered if anything that we have started will ever be sustained. This is the first time that I hear, straight from the officials that they will continue a project,” Steel said.
Department of Interior and Local Government Secretary Jesse Robredo also noted during the congress that in the entire Philippines, it is Mindanao where the barangay justice system is most important.
“A peaceful nation can move forward faster, we hope that more barangays can benefit from this kind of program,” he added.
One of the highlights of the congress is the oath taking of the Mindanao Consortium for Barangay Justice Advocates, which serves the sustainability strategy of the BJP program. This consortium was organized by the Gerry Roxas Foundation in partnership with the 8 LGU partners.
“Let us rally behind each other to achieve piece. They have already started something, let’s continue it,” encouraged MinDA Chair Luwalhati Antonino.
Antonino said that programs such as BJP is a beautiful legacy that people, especially government officials should support and replicate. (MinDa)
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Wellness Tip for Peace: Self Control: When we know how to control ourselves, we learn how to manage bigger responsibilities outside ourselves
Self-control stems from the powers of the soul, which all of us possess. The Talmud tells us that a person's greatness or inferiority is recognizable when he gets angry. The logical person does not lose control of himself. It's like a pressure cooker that has a little hole on the top to release the pressure. If you didn't have that little hole, the pot would explode. One should not bottle up his emotions, because that will cause mental anguish. However, although you have to speak, your tone of voice and how you say things make the difference. Building a [successful life] requires self-control and knowing how and when to speak. We sometimes lose control of ourselves and out of anger, say things that we later regret. Many times the regret does not rectify the damage that was done."
'via Blog this'A Lesson From Queen Esther - Torah.org:
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Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Wellness for Peace Tip: Take Healthy Snacks to Replenish Energy on Rigid Trainings
"Some of the best snack foods include peanut butter, nuts, whole-grain crackers, pretzels, sunflower seeds, granola bars, orange slices, bagels, graham crackers, string cheese and raisins. Tomato juice and chocolate milk also make excellent snacks!
'via Blog this'Healthy Snacks and Nutrition for High School Athletes - High School - Yahoo! Sports:
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Wellness for Peace Tip: Be Grateful & Tell People in Your Life You Love Them!
"Be grateful. A lot. Every day. Sure, it’s the theme of Thanksgiving, but it’s also just good for your health. Every one of us can be thankful for something every day. I have a note on the inside of my medicine cabinet above the sink that says, “Be Grateful.” It’s a constant reminder to tap into a feeling of gratitude each morning>>> Tell the people in your life you love them. Take the time to acknowledge friends and family as being special to you. It’s one thing to get them a card or a gift. It's another thing to say it. Take the time to tell them how much they mean to you. You’ll be amazed at how good it makes you feel."<<<
'via Blog this'Tips for Staying Healthy During the Holidays - Chatsworth, CA Patch:
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Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Wellness for Peace: Don't Just walk Away. Speak & Be Thankful to the Person. Gratitude block Toxins & Heal Relationships
"Medical experts agree, putting acts of gratitude into practice all year round can help block toxic emotions like envy, resent, regret, hostility and depression and boost the immune system as well. "Unmanaged stress increases the toxins in the body. If they remain elevated they can suppress the immune system and sap one of emotional energy. If one has an attitude of contentment and gratitude that can reduce the high level of stress and decrease the risk of depression, hostility and regret," said Dr Brennen. Medical research shows that the body produces potentially harmful hormones when it is exposed to constant arguments.
Dr Brennen said hormones like epinephrine, norepinephrine, cortisol and prolactin, when elevated in the blood for an extended period, can suppress the immune system and open the door for illness. "It is true that a heart of gratitude would mean a positive outlook on life, thus causing one to have healthy lifestyle habits that increase longevity. Diet is not the only right thing to do to produce good health. We also need gratitude," said Dr Brennen."
'via Blog this'The Tribune:
Dr Brennen said hormones like epinephrine, norepinephrine, cortisol and prolactin, when elevated in the blood for an extended period, can suppress the immune system and open the door for illness. "It is true that a heart of gratitude would mean a positive outlook on life, thus causing one to have healthy lifestyle habits that increase longevity. Diet is not the only right thing to do to produce good health. We also need gratitude," said Dr Brennen."
'via Blog this'The Tribune:
Wellness for Peace: Be Thankful to all we Encounter. Don't Just Walk Away, Say Thank You Personally. Gratitude block Toxins & Heal Relationships
"Medical experts agree, putting acts of gratitude into practice all year round can help block toxic emotions like envy, resent, regret, hostility and depression and boost the immune system as well. "Unmanaged stress increases the toxins in the body. If they remain elevated they can suppress the immune system and sap one of emotional energy. If one has an attitude of contentment and gratitude that can reduce the high level of stress and decrease the risk of depression, hostility and regret," said Dr Brennen. Medical research shows that the body produces potentially harmful hormones when it is exposed to constant arguments. Dr Brennen said hormones like epinephrine, norepinephrine, cortisol and prolactin, when elevated in the blood for an extended period, can suppress the immune system and open the door for illness.
"It is true that a heart of gratitude would mean a positive outlook on life, thus causing one to have healthy lifestyle habits that increase longevity. Diet is not the only right thing to do to produce good health. We also need gratitude," said Dr Brennen."
'via Blog this'The Tribune:
"It is true that a heart of gratitude would mean a positive outlook on life, thus causing one to have healthy lifestyle habits that increase longevity. Diet is not the only right thing to do to produce good health. We also need gratitude," said Dr Brennen."
'via Blog this'The Tribune:
Wellness for Peace: How to Heal: Pray. Say What You Mean & Mean What You Say. Apologize. Be Kind to Say "No" to Demands You Can't Do & Let Go
"Letting go is hard. It is painful to have to deal with someone you love being angry with you. It is painful when someone you love is in pain. It is painful to watch someone you love make destructive choices. It is scary to let go of trying to control their reactions. If you continue to feel responsible for how others react to your "no", however, you are agreeing to be a part of an unhealthy relationship based in distorted concepts of responsibility. Your only hope for a healthy relationship is to continue to work toward breaking your own patterns of unhealthy responsibility.
Fortunately for those who want to transform unhealthy responsibility into healthy responsibility, there are internal signals that alert you when you are possibly falling prey to misconceptions about responsibility. Two of those signals are guilt and resentment. Guilt and/or resentment often reflect an anxiety around saying no that comes from feeling responsible for the other person's reaction. When you feel guilt and/or resentment, you have an opportunity to reflect on whether you are fulfilling your responsibilities in no saying. If so, you must try, try, try … to let go."
'via Blog this'Healthy Parent / Healthy Child, Part Three: Saying no (kindly) and then let go | SierraSun.com:
Fortunately for those who want to transform unhealthy responsibility into healthy responsibility, there are internal signals that alert you when you are possibly falling prey to misconceptions about responsibility. Two of those signals are guilt and resentment. Guilt and/or resentment often reflect an anxiety around saying no that comes from feeling responsible for the other person's reaction. When you feel guilt and/or resentment, you have an opportunity to reflect on whether you are fulfilling your responsibilities in no saying. If so, you must try, try, try … to let go."
'via Blog this'Healthy Parent / Healthy Child, Part Three: Saying no (kindly) and then let go | SierraSun.com:
Monday, November 28, 2011
Wellness for Peace Tips on How to Prevent Type 2 Diabetes
1. Get daily physical activity. Exercise improves the action of insulin, moving glucose out of the bloodstream and into tissues where it can be used for energy; 2. Maintain a healthy weight. If you are overweight, the more pounds you lose, the lower your chances of developing diabetes. Talk with your doctor about what your optimum weight should be, and how to achieve it.; 3. Eat a diet low in refined carbohydrates, and incorporate fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains and monounsaturated fats (such as olive oil) into your diet.; 4. Manage your health. Get regular checkups for blood pressure, cholesterol and triglyceride levels, and seek treatment if necessary."
'via Blog this'Early Signs and Symptoms of Type 2 Diabetes Page 2 | ThirdAge: "How to do it:
'via Blog this'Early Signs and Symptoms of Type 2 Diabetes Page 2 | ThirdAge: "How to do it:
Wellness for Peace Tip: Eat Fiber Rich Food & Lower Your Cholesterol
Soluble fiber, found in beans, peas, prunes, apples, flaxseed and oats, helps to lower blood cholesterol levels by reducing the amount of low-density lipoprotein (LDL), the "bad" kind of cholesterol. Studies have shown that consuming between 10 to 25 grams of soluble fiber each day can lower cholesterol by nearly 20 percent. Make sure to get at least five to ten grams of soluble fiber per day to get the benefit."
'via Blog this'Five Secret Benefits Of Fiber | ThirdAge: "
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