Wellness Tip for Peace: To avoid confusion, be real. If we come to meet the person causing us confusion, we leave our imagination behind. We face the reality of knowing the truth. We learn to see everything in clarity...

Because there will be no confusion if we face reality directly from the source of our anxiety. Meeting the person personally and directly will make us confirm the truth in our imagination. When imaginations are broken down into reality, we leave the superficial world and we come down to our senses in the real world. As meeting progress and cards are laid one by one, we come to know the truth. The sooner we do this, the easier for us to clear our mind. And as Sir Yehudi Menuhin wrote "It cannot be done just by imagining what would it be like to do it. There is only one way to do it, and that is to do it"

There’s nothing wrong in choosing to remain single or be in a relationship. Both have their merits in their own right. At the end of the day, whether heartbroken or emotionally strong, every person learns to flow with the ebb of time and find happiness in life. But the very completeness of life is a definition that is subjective to personal experiences.

"While every single guy will gladly embrace singlehood with open arms, as opposed to the emotional roller-coaster of a relationship, what no one will tell you is that no matter how blissful life is, there will always be something amiss without love in the picture. The benefits of being single are plentiful, but they cannot oust the feeling of being needed or loved. While most people are upfront about their feelings and can quit a relationship with dignity still left, they’d agree that living on their own can never mirror the deep satisfaction of being loved. Singlehood is freedom no doubt, but enjoying this freedom alone can become tedious in the long run. After all, every bird takes flight only to come back home to its caged confines.
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Wellness Tip for Peace: Friends are forever. Honesty to your thoughts and politeness to communicate can keep it stable.

It is presence even in absence, instead of absence even in presence. We are all busy and erratice because we have to work for our living. We are lucky enough if we have a friend or set of friends who are there for us when we need them. To keep the friendship away from malicious intention and impurities requires deep honesty, and the most effective way to say our innermost thoughts in a manner that our friends wants it to be. Guarding our emotions not to hurt our friend is ok but sometimes we cannot help it, especially if it will already requires us to sacrife our principle or "what our conviction" to certain issues are. We do not need to lose our self just to keep a friend because later on, this filed-up emotion of irritation will erupt like a volcano! So say it, be firm with it, BUT before you do it, know deeply the personality of your friend. Usually the easiest way to know a friend's principle is to ask them a hypothetical question, the first answer that he/she utters without reservation is actually the thought that he/she has. Well, only you knows if your friend is lying or not. But you will know on the extemporaneous and outright answer that your friend will utter! Be sensitibe and always check your presence of mind and not just the presence of your spirit in the situation.

Wellness Tip for Peace: Love by nature is complicated because our personalities are also complicated. Survive the course, be still and enjoy it!

One practical advice is to take away emotions, and you will be at peace. But that is only intended for robots, because even humanoids can get hurt. Emotions makes us alive! Loving is a very good emotion, and also the worst emotion if not handled very well. It is the most passionate and the hottest of all the emotions available. The amount of love that a person gives varies according to his/her personality. The personality which is basically dimensional in nature as a by-product of the person's DNA, environment and choices made. That's why love, literally is complicated. Relax and find ways to work on it. Learning how to love will make you busy, alert, and smart. In fact, it can release the best and worst in you. Come to think of it, love teaches us how to survive life, literally, in the practical sense of it!

Wellness Tip for Peace: In every dark corner, we need light. Be the light. You shine because they need you!

What is ironic can work to your advantage. Lights can be seen because there's darkness. If you are enlightened and you carry your wisdom to solve even the most darkest situation, you will shine. Maintain the purity of your heart and the light of life will pass through to enlighten the pathways of others who are lost. Take time to lead others who needs your guide. Be firm, clear and direct to the point. Do not nurse their emotion like a nanny, but teach them to be a leader, independent and emotionally stable. Take care of your thoughts and keep it clean, free from the harmful radicals found in our planet. Detoxify, de-stress, and be ready to open your heart to love humans and animals for what they are. Inspire everyone to embrace the culture of peace. Do not be passive, do not be aggressive, but be peacefully active in deeds! You can do it! Trust your light and keep it!

Wellness Tip for Peace: People persecute each other so its natural that you are also persecuted. Do not be disturb by them. They have thieir own problems to solve. Focus on your work and keep it holy.

Your actions shows your character. You will not gain respect by what you are saying, but by what you are doing. Keep your self holy, away froom intrigues and rumor mongerers. If you are attacked, face it, say your point professionally. End the discussion and go back working. Do not spend too much time with people who complain because those people need a therapists. If you are therapist, go ahead and plunge yourself, anyway you will be paid by your service. But, if you are not, step back to avoid draining yourself. Those people doesn't deserve your time yet, while they are sick. Recommend them to an anger management group or keep your silence by praying for their soul to attain enlightenment. Learn how to delegate your peace work by endorsing a difficult person to those who can handle them personally on a one-on-one basis. Your responsibility is to influence peace work to a multitude of people and you cannot afford to drain yourself by one hardcore "Hater". Take these as a test of your patience, virtue and professionalism to your career as a Peace Leader. You are a leader who knows how to delegate with grace, politeness and courtesy.

Wellness Tip for Peace: Healthy body weight helps maintain a healthy brain. kidney and heart. Make yoga, walking and sports a daily routine to protect your body and your environment.

Dieting is not a solution to reduce weight. Shift to healthy lifestyle is the solution to clean the body and clean the air we breath (less carbon, good air). The habit of not smoking, eating veggies and fruits 6x a day, or eating one big plateful of fibers instead of carbohydrates, regular detoxification, and taking long walks, or jogging, practicing the silence of yoga, playing sports of your choice are few of the basic lifestyle that humans must do to keep the earth healthy and peaceful. Ideally, all children should start this, but if one is already an adult, the maximum age that one should start is 30yrs old to give the body more time to adjust and master the new lifestyle. So, that he/she can still enjoy long life instead of dying at the age of 55yrs old. The shift to healthy lifestyle also prevents depression as the body's metabolism is always busy to clean its toxins and burn its fats, naturally with less expenses and less trouble to the environment. This shift will also make humans better citizens of their country by helping their country clean the air. It also teaches humans to be independent, responsible and discipline.

Wellness Tip for Peace: You exude the light, because within you there is peace

Your subconcious is very powerful. Your thoughts can control you. Let the light within you grow and shine in full bright. Take care of your peace within. Reconcile thoughts that rattles your personality. Keep your private time and silence. Choose your partners wisely at home, at work, at play. Know your boundaries, and be firm to set your personal discipline in maintaining a healthy heart. Cultivate your emotions by learning people's reactions. When you are hurt, don't take it personal. No one wants to harm you for as long as you do not plan anything to harm them. Be careful with your thoughts for your voice will speak it and your body will show it. Thus, keep yourself pure, always and forever. Do not rely on other people. Be responsible to your own safety. Remember, love begets love, and hate begets hate. When you feel you cannot face it, sleep, recharge, eat well, get some fresh air, walk,until your back to your senses. Life is good, and we are the one who makes our subconcious mind to think good. Do not forget that in everyone you meet, you are precious and one of a kind, because you are their gift! You are the angel that exude light!

Wellness Tip for Peace: Loyalty is a pre-requisite to commitment. To pursue it requires total confidence and submission

The "Word of Honor" is man's powerful contract to his/her fellow human. Once we set our heart into something and we utter our "word of honor" to it, we need to submit ourselves fully to what we've already said. When we can be loyal to it, then we are committed. No one will question our commitment. Our personality will be consistent and we gained the trust of those who follow us. Being loyal to our word of honor will also simplify everything as we focus only to what we've said. Anxities will be less by all parties concerned. Time will be use wisely as discussions will no longer eat the time alloted for work implementation. The "Word of Honor" is a conviction made into a decision. The person who can be loyal to this is like a Military General who gives his/her word to his/her troops. The troops will act on the word given without hesitation and in full obedience because the General gained their trust.

Wellness Tip for Peace: On Peace Leadership, befriend people with strong faith of the future. Include them in the ranks and take them in as partners.

Time management a necessity to professionalize everything, particularly in settling conflict. Choose people with positive outlook to strengthen your force in handling the pessimists. Invite people who have strong faith in human strength to overcome problems. People who knows how to pray and yet are also detached to their obsession in their prayer requests. People who have free minds, brave dispositions and willing to take risks, and yet knows how to discipline themselves to always work in "legal" means. The free thinkers who maintained their virtues, not out of obligations but out of personal decision and conviction. As a peace leader, the road is hard and heavy, and we can only take the light baggage. Choose your partners wisely.

Wellness Tip for Peace: "We are here to love, to heal, to comfort, to feed the hungry and to give hope to the despairing

...We belong to the world because we are born to the world." We are humanist, we understand the needs of our fellows. We know human weaknesses, and we accept that we also have our own. We know what it means to have nothing. When we share what we have, we do not do it out of sacrife, but because our heart tells us to do it. We respect the dignity of the poor by helping them start a dignified life. We educate the poor for them to be capable to have a decent job, raise their own family in a comfortable home, and make a living legally. We do not make the poor dependent to us; we teach them how to be independent. We do not make policies that will oppressed the poor. We do not discriminate, neither do we pity them for having less than what we have. We accept the fact that poor people exist because circumstances lead them to that state of life. Thus, we find ways to help their miseries. We seek their talents, we harness their skills, we educate. We give them legal jobs and we pay their services professionally.

Wellness Tip for Peace: Stay away from peole that will make you angry, Keep distance to those who kill your character. Protect your personhood.

Peace is kindness but not stupidity. Uncontrollable anger is bottled up frustration to the person whom one expect to provide what he/she wants. Another reason is chemical reaction and/or personality clash. Let time heal the wounds and let nature take its natural course. What is important is you do not lose your personhood, your dignity as a human being. Take time to study the person from afar, and learn from your mistakes on what went wrong to the relationship. The differences maybe cultural, not personal. There was miscommunication, because everything happened in a rush. Maybe both of you are not ready to meet yet, because you are not on the same page. Maybe both of you are pressured on what the sociey expect things should be. You can analyze the whole situation from start until now, and you will know on what is the real conflict that made the two of you fight. The soultion, is to make a phone call to the person and tell him/her what you need, and not on what you want. Make him/her understand your needs without demands. Appreciate the person for being there for you. Boost his/her morale and confidence sincerely by telling him/her on what made you happy when you are with him/her. Ask yourself, can you live without this person? Your answer maybe, yes. But ask yourself again, do you choose to live without this person for the rest of your life? If your answer is NO, then, do something with your anger. Do not kill him/her in your heart

Wellness Tip for Peace: Respect Authority. Lead your leaders by presenting your alternatives with politeness and grace until they embrace your solution

Leaders have their own vision, and their authority will make their constituents follow them. If your critical mind do not agree, present an alternative and do not rebel. Avoid assasinating the character of people in authority to stop the rebellion process. Know the personality of your leader and know your personality very well. Find the point of commonality where you can work together. Your differences are normal, and your conflict is healthy because it defines each individuality. What matters is you can lead the settling of conflict without losing each other in the process. Be polite. Learn the skills of effective communication and exhaust all legal means to negotiate. Your winning is not limited to the end point of getting what you want, but the whole process itself. Your mission is to educate your leader on the alternatives, the other side of the issue, the other way to solve a problem. As you handle the whole process, be the solution provider and not the problem-maker. And at the end of each day, rest well and detach yourself from the issue, because you need to replenish yourself by geting much sleep you need for your mind to function as you enter the next day of negotiation. And do not forget to nourish your body to get you through the pressure you got yourself into.Lead the whole process, eventually, you will enjoy your politeness and everything is a piece of work leading to peace at work!

Wellness Tip for Peace: Your home is where your heart is because there you've found your family who respect your personality and love you unconditionally beyond material gains.

Your happiness is the mirror of your place where you are right now, if it is a home or just a simple dwelling address. Home is the place of unconditional love and respect for one's identity. While a dwelling is just a place where you sleep, eat, etc with the rest of other humans. Either you are connected biologically or by circumstance, doesn't matter and doesn't define your family. Family is not limited to biological connections. You can create your own family, where all members value the individuality of each and everyone and will be there for mutual support in times of sickness, trouble, and misfortunes. The concept of family as the basic unit of society is founded on man's survival way back in the stone age where humans live for survival and to defend themselves as a group in times of danger. Whoever jives to the group is part of the family inside the camp where humans live. Eventually their relationships were classified through the introduction of religion. Religion has expanded and also limited the concept of family with the promotion of their corresponding dogma and sacraments. Read more of the history to know more. But, if we look deeper into our being, the limited concept of the family can also limit our sight and horizon. To help expand our horizon is to not limit the concept to biological connections but to the inter-relationships inside your residence. Ony you knows if it is a home or just a house. Check where your heart is and you will know where your home is.

Wellness Tip for Peace: Do not follow the apathetic; lead them instead because you pursue life and you care for their souls

People who love to talk negative issues without providing solutions are digging their own grave. Their peace within is shattered and so nothing is left to share the peace with others. Lead them instead to be inspired on the beauty of life. Provide the balance by not following the negative path. Be the sunshine in every dark corner. Provide the solution. Let them see the problem as an opportunity. Show them their potential, and let them realize how capable they are to live their life to the fullest. They are the negative, you are the positive, thus balance is maintained to keep the movement in our little planet. When you are drained with their negativity, take time to go out, feel the air, recharge and rejuvenate. And at the end of the day, before you sleep, forgive them for any offense they made to you, and you for getting angry with them. Do not worry, time has brought you together with these people, you have a mission to fulfill. Just go and use your best skills and lead them to light. You are there for a noble reason, relax and enjoy it!

Wellness Tip for Peace: Maintain your taste for style, do not compromise, but live only according to what you can afford

Temptations are everywhere. Beautiful clothes, jewelries, shoes, bags, fancy restaurants, expensive get-away, all to satisfy the feast of human senses. You love life and you want to get the best out of it! You've got taste, discriminating taste according to hgh-end standards, and so it's hard for you to just accept on what is available.You don't have to, actually, you just need to widen your horizon and seek where you will not compromise yourself, but you will only live according to what you can afford. If it means moving to a new place, changing job that suits your talent and skills, living away from the city, etc. There are a lot of choices beyond the walls of what you see infront of you right now. The important thing is you are not stuck to do something because you put yourself into a situation that your responsibility is beyond your healthy capacity, physically, emotionally, mentally. The most valuable property you have is yourself, because that is your mover, your workforce. You should be healthy and well in mind, body and spirit. Contemplate, take time for yourself, only you knows the best for your future because you know your strengths and your weaknesses. So, choose your passion wisely. Be smart on where to put your heart, for your passion lives where your heart is.

Wellness Tip for Peace: The shortest distance between two points is a straight line. When face with a difficulty, focus on the target on where you want to go and what do you want to achieve. Do not run around the bushes. Find the direct solution and hit your target

Instinct will tell you how to go about it. All you need is to focus your energy and trust your instinct. Other people will guide you, tell you what they want, or worst command you to what they think is right. But only you knows what you need and how you can get it based on your capacity. In everything you do, be firm to what you believe in. And as you travel down the road of life, be safe emotionally, mentally and physically. For you know that the best protector of your destiny is your self. If you know how to take care of yourself, then you can be responsible enough to take care of other people. Lead yourself peacefully and you can practice the art of peace leadership to other people.

Wellness Tip for Peace: The key is to share the power, and share the leadership in order for them to cooperate. Practice responsible democracy where people will own the idea to resolve conflict and to fulfill the duties that goes along with it.

Ask them what they want and show them how to get it. Listen first, to know their personalities. Let them speak and open up their minds. Your responsibility is to settle the conflict and not to assess or judge them as opponent. Take the person as pure innocent human ready to make peace. In the process of negotiating, be sincere and real to your thoughts. Relay the consequences if any, of what they demand from you. But, present the problem as an opportunity. Because it will only be a problem, if there is a solution. If you have an idea on how to solve the problem, let the pesron own your idea by asking him/her questions on what he/she wants until he/she finds your idea his/her idea. Once you convince him/her to own the idea as his/her, congaratulations, welcome to the first step of your peace negotiation. And the rest are skills to be harnessed. Read more as I give you the Wellness Tips for Peace Leadesrhip here or through the other site Peace Vigil 2012 @ www.sailingforpeaceworldwidepeacevigil.blogspot.com

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